Why adopt a child?

On days like this, when one year old Sir Riel wakes up cranky and doesn’t stop whining all morning no matter what I do, I must admit I question my desire to have more children! At times like these, I take comfort in the possibility that multiple children will entertain each other so I can eat breakfast in peace. Hey, all you parents out there who are laughing at me, didn’t you ever dream about eating breakfast in peace just once? Once? Apparently that’s too much to ask.

Mr. Hempleseed and I want two kids. No magic reason. It’s sort of like having a favourite colour or prefering scrambled eggs to poached eggs. No one asks why its your favourite colour, or why you cook your eggs that way, and I’ve never heard anyone say ‘um, excuse me, but why do you want children, and two for that matter, what’s the point?’. Or at least no one I like has ever asked why.

So why do people feel it is appropriate to ask why we want to adopt a child?

We have our reasons, sure. The single most important reason we want to adopt a child is because we want to grow our family. It’s the same reason that some people have unprotected sex, do in vitro fertilization, or freeze their eggs for future use. Have you ever asked someone why they were trying to make a baby? The only difference between adoption and all these other methods is that the baby is already made.  I personally feel that the magic, beauty and sacredness of raising children remains the same no matter where they came from or how they were made.

Parenting is about raising new beautiful creative beings into this world so that they may contribute to our collective bright future. It is about building community,  teaching and learning, laughing and crying. It is about experiencing a love so complete and perfect that you never need the question why again.

So, why are we adopting? Because we want little Sir Riel to have a sibling. Because we want a family of four. Because every child deserves perfect complete love and we have that love to give.

Does that answer your question?

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Adoption Adventure

This is my first blog post ever.

I created this blog several months ago, and have not made a post until now. That’s the story of my life these days. I think about things for a long time before actually getting to do them; I think it has something to do with being a mama to a one year old toddler, going to University, being on the board of a great little non-profit (www.matoto.org) and just generally being a busy body.

However, there are many things I have been thinking about for the last while and I am pleased to announce and celebrate that some of those things are actually happening! For example, I am finally making very cool felt dryer balls (something I’ve wanted to learn for a year, I’ll post about that later), and I have started a running program (months after telling myself I would, I might post about that later too), and the most exciting of all, my husband and I met with an adoption agency today and we are starting an inter-country adoption application! 

Ever since my husband (whom, for the purposes of this blog I’ll call the Mr. Hempleseed) and I met, we’ve talked about adopting children. After we got married, we decided to try to start a family the ‘old fashioned way’, and lo and behold we now have a one year old running around the house. Our little man (whom, for the purposes of this blog, I’ll call Sir Riel…haha…suriel, surreal, get it?) attached to my bosom after a marvelous pregnancy, a glorious labour, and a freakin’ crazy birth. That was just over a year ago now, and while I can’t imagine getting pregnant again (I’ll post on why some time soon), I do want to grow our happy hippy family, so adoption it is!

I won’t say much more for now. After all this is my first. blog. post. ever. I will tell you this: We are putting in our adoption application in the coming few days and on it we have to write our ‘religion and spiritual values’ in a box about the size of four peanuts. I wrote ‘Animism and Pantheism, Not Active’. I dare you to google that.

So, MamaPutu will officially become our adoption adventure blog, interspersed with other musings, such as what it means to be an animist-pantheist. (I just discovered my religion with this funky little test, who knew you could determine your religion with a few multiple choice questions?). Just kidding, I probably won’t talk about animism, pantheism, or any other ism. Okay, maybe some feminism. But probably not. Well, maybe.

If you have read this, you’re a rare bird, and you know what they say about rare birds….

I haven’t the faintest idea what they say about rare birds, so if you know, please tell me.

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